Another week, another article! Hope you all had a great start in the day.
The aim of today’s article is to reduce your headache a little, we tend to overthink and worry about things we don’t have under control or create an issue where really there is not even a problem.
Simon Sinek published this quote this morning: “The truth of most truths is that they are perception and not, in fact, true.” I would even go a step further, the truth is that we don’t know what the truth is. You think you upset someone because you forget a meeting, are you sure? Maybe the other person forgot it too? You think someone is angry or doesn’t like you because you behaved very childish? Maybe the other person didn’t even categorize what you did as childish? You think the recruiter does not like your profile which is the reason they didn’t reply? Maybe your application just failed the online keyword test?
This list could be endless, basically what I try to say is that most things that are not facts (no numbers, no written statements you received etc.) we don’t know what is actually happen until we ask, and even when we ask we might not get the answer. Cause after all we are vulnerable in some parts and less emotional in others, until we talk about it, have the courage to raise it and speak up, we actually don’t know what is going on.
Loads of people tend to create a truth out of this thinking, which can result in frustration, worries, fears, stress, discussion and arguments for no good reason. I find it hard myself to be unbiased sometime and not interpret things into what just happened, if that happens two tip:
- Question to ask: do I have anything to quantify this, any “evidence”
- If that answer to the first question is no (believe me in most cases it is), don’t waste time thinking about it
That does not only sound as simple as it is, it is as simple as that. It will take some training and repetition to truly be free from perceptions and we will probably never be free from them but by raising awareness for ourselves we will accept more things, do more things and worry less.
The Guardian framed this as “Our sense of the world is a bunch of guesses that we generate from experience, expectations and beliefs.” These are not only our own experiences, they get easily mixed up with stories and experiences from others. In here lies another problem, once you think about this too much you will find yourself getting lost in everything. Why am I doing what I am doing? Is there really where I meant to be? Is this the life I want to have or what I believed I want to have? Well here are two good answers to this questions:
- If you cant identify that you are living a life someone else told you too, you probably made these decisions for yourself if consciously or unconsciously
- If you realize that it is a life everyone is else is expecting you to life, it is never too late to change if you really want to
I hope this takes a little weight of your shoulders, life is not supposed to be hard, the truth does not have to be hard, and even if it is there is always a way out cause thats what life is about – living it and doing it!
What are your thoughts?